Most of the thoughts of the mind surface up when you are just falling into a sleep..a small nap of the afternoon..or the serious sleep of the night..these are the times when all the issues which have been long ago hidden surface up..
these could be the people whom you have met long ago..a school friends comment about you..a little joke ..or the time when you fell from the cycle at a turn..u knew you would fall at that point some time and were always careful riding there until one reckless moment just gives it ..
or..or some little crush you had for some one ..his face and smile..Ammas opinion about you ..smile of a little cousin who comes up to you..or the always famous stories of 'Little meetings your people arranged for you in the hunt of the 'right' person....
Now these are going to be series of posts which you need to check out ..from time to time..
Young and fresh:
you don't understand the impact of what was in store for you..
actually you did not give it much of a thought..except that 'Oh people do get married ..but the fact that marriage is about bonding with a person for the whole life..never occurs to you..
Mom and dad feel as if the whole world is coming upon them as even they are new to it..The idea about some one coming to meet their little girl and deciding upon their future keeps them in a frenzy of 'Responsible ' parents ....making them to look a bit older than the normal self....
You wear a Saree which is quite a feat as u come under the category of running about the place with a salwar often ..the pleats are placed at the right place quite painfully after a trial of two three times..:)..and mother as usual thinks you are the best ..
You adjust your glasses..and coming out of the room is quite a feat..you don't know what the front room where you normally 'lazy' out in front of the TV has in store for you..you are so nervous that it is difficult to smile..
Thinking of those days..Gosh days when you were so young..
..and the most embarrassing of all is when people actually force us to talk in private..now coming to it..what can people who are absolutely stranger s except for a few hours can have to talk ..and how will they decide on what is good and what is best for them in a ashort while and coming to it the person whom you meet naturally would keep the best front even though he may be a moody idiot otherwise....
I would relate my first 'shooting' as most of them would like to call in detail now...:-
It was the first proposal and don't remember how it came about exactly..the guy was from Australia and had permanent PR over there ..he was some thing into networking....and was a 6 years older to me..
Both my aunts my mom's sisters were called to this event on a emergency basis..
He came with his father ,mother and sat on deewan..My aunt was later telling that he was keenly observing my mother just to guess if i would be as smart as her..:)..
And when i came into the hall he was rubbing his legs ..nervous i guess..
And after the farce of asking my name..Biggest joke of all in such events..his father was telling something for which my father was over enthusiastically nodding...after a few Mts if grazing every where except the person concerned..
.i suddenly asked if we could talk...Which caught every body unaware..and my father raised his eyebrows..at my sudden request..
my people were afraid i would blurt some thing unusual..and abrupt..
:-) ..I wanted to know if i was he had plans of settling down there or her..a question which now i think is something which only destiny can decide..
People : Part-2
The saddest part of the whole thing is when people call you to 'convince' on the person..
..they have not met him..no idea about what i actually want to see in the partner..
and they give me long speech on the 'why i should go for him'...
My little gyan for such people .." Such things happen only when both the people think they
can go for it ..and it is convincing for them that they can bare each other'..Atleast in this time ..where people have seen the world..without mutual respect and attaraction ..things cannot go further..'
And this is the process which was followed for selecting the right person..
But there have been people who have met their 'Soul mates' in the similar fashion...
you wonder what the guy is actually thinking about you..
your glasses which you know were pretty thick covering your eyes..and your stiffness around the place walking in the saree.. my awkwardness..
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My experiences in all this search for the right person has made put me in many kind of funny and strange situations ..which i Will put down some day..and taught me and the people around me to look at people and the way they talk more carefully..
hmmmmm.....and the whole discussion that goes when the episode is finished...
and looking into the pooja room you ask God is he the right person..
..and you know the answer in a few days...
'all the wrong ones before the right ones'...and another experience adds by...
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